If you've ever heard someone say that times change, it is certainly true. According to the study done by Gábor Orosz and his team on the effects of declaring a relationship Facebook official, "22% of the Americans reported that they first met online, which is approximately the same proportion of couples who met in bars." To be honest I was kind of surprised that this statistic wasn't higher. It seems like almost everyone has a ton of "friends" who they know from online but never actually talk to or hangout with in person. Facebook was created in 2004 and was one of the earliest social networking sites. That was essentially the start of the modern social networking movement. Before then, people didn't really meet online or casually stalk someone's profile after meeting them in person, but today all of that is commonplace. More over, the youth of today's society aren't really used to a world without social networking.
Besides just how the ways in which we date have changed, our overall view of relationships and love has changed as well. Throughout the 20th century, the divorce rate steadily grew. In the early 1900s the divorce rate was in the teens; one out of every two marriages that happened in the 90s has ended in a divorce. Gay marriage, which was previously unheard of, was officially legalized in every state by the Supreme Court's ruling of Obergefell v Hodge in 2015. In 2006, Massachusetts became the first state in the US to legalize gay marriage and since then, the LGBT movement has gotten a lot more publicity from the media. In her book, Love, In Theory, E. J. Levy shows that, in today's society, love stories can come in many different shapes unlike the classic cookie cutter Nicholas Sparks stories; she tells of a gay brother at his sister’s second wedding while dealing with his father’s mistress being in attendance, a lesbian student who turns out to be bisexual and falls for a male professor, as well as a straight female college professor who falls in love with a man who is her polar opposite. All of her stories shed light upon a different view of love in today’s society that might once have been seen as a little out there.
Alternative albums of the 90s and 2000s showed these themes, at least on the surface, only in a very straight forward way. That's not to say that other views of these themes aren't normal, but rather that this is simply the common way that they are portrayed in most alternative songs. The vast majority of songs in the alternative genre are a guy singing about a girl. Matchbox twenty is no exception to this.
"Bright Lights," one of the hit singles off this album, tells the tale of a girl leaving her boyfriend to pursue her dream of being an actress in New York City. A quiet and comforting piano breaks the silence while Thomas recalls how the girl left but goes on to say that he still wants her to come back so they can be together. The song almost seems like a broadway performance as it starts out quiet but then grows while the lyrics tell a very clear story. The second line of the song is "took all except my name," which shows that this is the girl he wanted to marry. While the lyrics don't suggest that the couple in the story were married, the message could be taken as she left his name behind which would hint at a divorce. The lyrics from this song could easily make up one of the stories out of E.J. Levy's book, Love, In Theory. The point is, whether or not the lyrics specifically say it, the listener can easily relate the straight forward themes presented in the alternative music to the much more modernized scenarios that play out in society today.
Matchbox Twenty, like a lot of alternative music, touches the surface of these themes with their lyrics and lets the audience take the rest of the meaning by adding their own personal experience to the music. They sing about themes that are timeless even though the scenarios that they play out in may change. In an interview about the band, Thomas said, "We were making these albums and speaking from our heart, and so you could never take us down if we were starting from that point." They made music that meant something to them and allowed others to relate to it. Their songs tell stories that the audience can interpret in a way that lets them relate it to their own personal triumphs and tribulations. Whether a song is from 1990 or 2000, most alternative songs have a message that can transcend time and changing cultures.
Works Cited
Jacobs, Jay S. "This Is How a Solo Album Breaks." PopEntertainment. PopEntertainment, 3 May 2005. Web. 16 Nov. 2015.
Levy, E. J. Love, in Theory: Ten Stories. Athens, GA: U of Georgia, 2012. Print.
Orosz, Gábor, Ádám Szekeres, Zoltán G. Kiss, Péter Farkas, and Christine Roland-Lévy. "Elevated Romantic Love and Jealousy If Relationship Status Is Declared on Facebook." Frontiers in Psychology Front. Psychol. 6 (2015): n. pag. Academic Search Complete. Web. 16 Nov. 2015.